Isn’t it interesting how we can tell others what to do but not apply that same wisdom to ourselves?
In my life coaching ministry at GateWay of Hope, I often ask women, “What are you doing for fun?” We track their progress and talk about the importance of setting healthy boundaries.
Sometimes we refer to an emotional boundary as setting a fence around the heart.
Likewise with my writing clients. I may ask, “What are you doing for an artist date?”
They tell me about roaming through bookstores, writing morning pages at a quirky and fun coffee shop or choosing a new journal.
Terrific success for my coaching clients. Not such a good job by their coach. I find it increasingly difficult to schedule artist dates and/or find some time for fun in my busy schedule. Am I too busy? Yes. How can I remedy that? Hmm.
One of my friends recently asked me, “What are you doing for Rebecca?”
I had to stop and think about that question, because we often define fun as something we do that costs money.
But I need to consider other things that are just as relaxing and important for me – activities that cost little or nothing. Fun might include playing the piano, banging out chords that help release some of the pressures of a stressful day.
Walking through crunchy leaves or strolling through colorful chrysanthemums at a garden store. These joys remind me of the creator and how he blesses us with an autumn Kansas.
- An occasional movie
- Watching the baseball playoffs with my son
- Looking forward to Jayhawk basketball and OU football
- Pulling out my coloring book and finding a quiet moment on the deck
- A new color of fingernail polish
- The turquoise and corals of a Kansas sunset
- A haircut
- A new journal or reading through the old one with an attitude of praise
These are some of the things that bring me joy, however I need to work harder at getting away and forcing myself to relax. Is that an oxymoron? Forced relaxation?
Even now, I feel the need for some time away to reboot my soul and refresh that creative spirit in me.
I write better after a break when I feel more energized to connect sentences that form paragraphs, outline chapters and introduce new characters to the world.
So I need to be more proactive about using my time off. I need to actually schedule a writing retreat and a personal sabbatical – wherever and whenever I can – soon.
As 2017 approaches, I need to discipline myself to do the same thing I ask of my clients – to find that special place of inner rest, to plan an artist date, to find my own creative boundaries.
Hope asks accountability of others but also demands spiritual nourishment of the self. Even as I help others, I need to do a better job finding myself and define that fence around my heart.
Anyone else want to join me in the search?
©2016 RJ Thesman, Author of the Reverend G Trilogy http://amzn.to/1rXlCyh